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Although there is some truth in the adage that love conquers all, it is often argued that love is never enough to strengthen a relationship or keep it afloat.
As we celebrate the day of international love, February 14, BVI Platinum News spoke to one of the Territory’s most loved couples about their story, their views on love and a possible map to a healthy and strong relationship.
Former Miss BVI 2010, Sheroma 'Brass.Angel' Hodge-Philip, 32, and Grammy nominated song writer, Art 'Drastic' Phillip, 31, have been together for over 6 years, after being introduced to each other by a mutual friend.
This encounter was a rare moment for Drastic, as he told BVI Platinum News, “It was love at first sight.”
He further explained that falling in love with his wife was an "intentional accident."
Things went differently for Sheroma though, who expressed she had absolutely no plans of falling in love with Drastic, “but I got to know him pretty quickly.”
Now the two are in love and inseparable.
In defining love, Sheroma highlighted the Bible passage, 1 Corinthians 13, where verses 4-8 reads, “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.”
Adding to that, Drastic shared, “Love to me is that driving force that makes you want to spend the rest of your life with someone, no matter what.”
The couple went on to disclose their view and belief in the saying that love conquers all, but added that love cannot stand on its own in a relationship. They highlighted several other vital components that must exist throughout.
“Yes! [love conquers all]. The presence of love means the absence of hate,” said Drastic, while Sheroma noted, “God is love and God conquers all, therefore love conquers all.”
They added that along with love, “Trust, support, compromise and understanding builds a strong relationship.”
With all these components combined, they shared that their relationship is a very strong one, in addition to the fact that they are included in every aspect of each other’s life.
“Hobbies and careers; our support system for each other is immeasurable.”
They shared that having met at a very young age, 24 to be exact, the relationship stays fresh as they grow together, share opportunities and start a family together.
“We just love having fun and have a lot of interest in common, so there is never a dull moment,” Sheroma told BVI Platinum News.
She went on to note what she loves most about her partner.
“I like his fun and spontaneous personality, tied with his amazing musical talent.”
Drastic shared, “I like her loyalty and dedication to our marriage, family and careers”.
On this international day of love, the two shared that it is just a regular day of the week for them, as their love is celebrated all year round, nonstop.
Sheroma added, “However we may occasionally go to dinner or do something extra special for each other once in a blue moon on Valentine’s Day.”
In giving a little advice to all the lovers and potential lovers around the Territory, the two expressed that love has boundaries that vary by couple, but boundaries nonetheless. They noted that a relationship will dwindle and die with the presence of insecurities, misunderstandings and poor communication.
“We recommend that it is important to set personal, physical and even spiritual boundaries during the dating stage and prior to marriage to prevent as many conflicts as possible.”
Happy Valentine's Day!